When two people are talking at the same time, no one is listening. Consequently, there is no communication. For conversation to be meaningful, it requires talking and listening. How hard can that be? Yet 87% of those who divorce say their main problem was that they could not communicate.
Listening begins with an attitude. If I choose to believe every person I encounter has inherent dignity and value, meaning their thoughts and feelings are important, then I am prepared to listen. If I think the world revolves around me, that my ideas are all that counts, then why should I listen to anyone else? Many people don’t have a communication problem; they have an attitude problem.
Let’s begin by learning to value one another. In doing so, we will inadvertently make our conversations and experiences much more healthy and rich.